An important disclaimer for this site is that my husband is brilliant and I'm a bugger of a wife. Way back when, we (I) decided that we'd split baby care 50:50. And I mean 50:50. There have been ructions, tears and strops (mine) but somehow we worked it out. When William turned five months, husband scaled back so that I gained two uninterrupted days a week. It's meant I can do this.
Only a week before the scale back, true 50:50 seemed the selfish dream of a work-shy wife. But now just two months later, neither of us can imagine William-ing any other way. I still have guilt jitters about escaping 24:7 motherhood, but Tom Hodgkinson's "The Idle Parent" helps... as does the view from my (our) office.